Nicholas Carlson

  • signed Pi Lam at UNC Rechartering Petition 2022-07-13 14:07:44 -0400

    Petition for Defined Timeline of Pi Lambda Phi UNC Charter Revocation

    175 signatures

    We, the alumni of the NC Omega Beta Chapter of Pi Lambda Phi Fraternity at UNC-Chapel Hill, are petitioning the University for a defined term for the revocation of our Chapter’s charter.

    On March 28th, 2022, we were informed of the UNC Honor Court’s decision to indefinitely revoke our charter as a result of our undergraduate members’ violations of alcohol and drug abuse, hazing, and interfering with judicial procedures. Two weeks later, on the weekend of April 8th, our undergraduate members validated the Honor Court’s rationale by hosting an unsanctioned “formal” weekend where members continued their misconduct (alcohol violations and destruction of private property) despite being placed on probation by our Chapter Coaches and Pi Lambda Phi’s International Headquarters.

    We alumni of Pi Lambda Phi fraternity condemn the behavior of our Chapter’s undergraduate members and have taken action in support of the Honor Court’s decision. On May 27th, 2022, our Chapter Coaches Board notified our undergraduate members that (1) we will close our Chapter and (2) they must vacate our fraternity house at 110 W. Cameron Ave. We do not seek exoneration but petition the University for a defined term of our charter’s revocation (ex. 2-3 years) where our alumni and International Headquarters can recolonize Pi Lambda Phi at UNC as the healthy, constructive chapter we all desire.

    Pi Lambda Phi began as the first non-sectarian fraternity in the United States after our Founders were denied admission into other fraternities because of their race and religion. Our chapter at UNC, NC Omega Beta, has a well-established history of accepting members from every race, religion, sexual orientation, and creed otherwise – long before any of our peer social fraternities on campus. Across countless generations of Carolina graduates, students who were not accepted by other fraternities were welcomed and given lifetime fraternal friendship by Pi Lambda Phi. We believe that Pi Lambda Phi can be a positive influence on the Carolina Community and seek to recolonize our Chapter as soon as possible so that we can offer that same experience to future generations at UNC.

    While being utterly disappointed by the behavior of our undergraduate members, our alumni recognize the need to be more engaged and be better partners with the University and Carolina Community more broadly. Recent events have spurred our alumni to be better organized and prepared to manage our chapter, once recolonized, through the creation of both a Chapter Coaches Board and a Housing Corporation. We know there are many additional steps we can take to recolonize Pi Lambda Phi on the best footing possible and look forward to working with UNC’s Office of Fraternity & Sorority Life, Standards Review Board, and Office of Student Affairs to identify and take those steps.

    We hope that the University will judge Pi Lambda Phi’s potential by the values and actions of its alumni, rather than the irresponsible actions of our undergraduates, and ask the University to consider allowing us to recolonize as early as the Fall 2024 semester. This timing will allow our alumni to work with our International Headquarters and the University to ensure that NC Omega Beta lives up to the values we pride ourselves on while also fostering a positive chapter culture – internally and across the Carolina campus.

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  • donated 2018-11-01 11:35:58 -0400

    General Donations

    Through the volunteer and fiscal support of a group of alumni, we have been able to create our Alumni Chapter and begin to actualize our dreams of a strong alumni community. Their support has sponsored our data collection campaign, built our website, and helped with chapter operations.

    Please join in and show your support as we continue to expand our efforts.

    Not four years, but a lifetime.

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  • posted about A Piecemealed Family on Facebook 2017-10-10 10:27:58 -0400
    A Piecemealed Family

    A Piecemealed Family

    My mother told my brother that friends will come and go, but family will always be there.
    We knew she was wrong.

    My parents served in the navy, thus we played the plinko board of resettling every couple years before rooting ourselves in coastal Carolina. Our New York family would call often and when it counted, such as birthdays, holidays, weekends, etc. They were my brother’s and my connection to something beyond ourselves, a family mythology that told the story of where we came from Before. Growing up in The City, The Latin music, the community, the languages, the food all seemed implausible, from another place and time that we couldn’t truly fathom. As we were raised in North Carolina, we grew distant from the Family. Not so much black sheep, but rather what was to be the expected product of Hispanics growing up in a predominantly white Southern society. The mythologies became just stories. The connections weakened.

    Around puberty, Marco and I realized that my mother’s saying was just another story. My uncles would berate me for looking gay because I spiked my hair (I thought it was cool). I would be instructed never to bring home any woman who did not fit their racial, religious, ethnic, or nationality requirements for fear of having my legs broken. And if I happened to be gay… well forget about those threats. Ties to our xenophobic immigrant family and a Hispanic culture began to fade in the South, which was another point of ‘otherness’. Marco and I realized that it was actually our friends who would be there for us, to understand - or try to-, to comfort without judgment, and pick us up when we fell. We translated this realization to our mother differently, putting as at odds with her expectations.

    As with most freshman, attending college was as much an academic pursuit as it was a true test of resolve and independence. Marco became independent much earlier than me, experiencing life’s darker side alone, and paying for it many years. I have always been better at translating my thoughts into words that my mother and family could understand. This led both of us to feel that I was the Golden Child and he was the Mistake. However, attending college tested my independence years after a much younger Marco tested his.

    It was on move in day that I met my best friend. There was a sudden *click*. A few months later, I met a new ‘family’, or rather what I envisioned a family to be. It was in Pi Lambda Phi that I pivoted towards who I wanted to become as an adult. For me, the creed of inclusion was a very different foundation for a social structure to be built upon than the one I had experienced in my family’s lore. For me, it was amazing to stumble into (literally) a family that asked that you view the world through the lens of equality as a right for all. Yes, while our country was built on such a premise, no one can argue that institutional and social prejudice don’t exist in most every facet of American life. Every day we see people make speak, act, and react based on their disposition towards another person’s gender, sex, skin color, religion, affiliations, etc. Inequalities in our community became visible and fueled our philanthropy. By doing so, we were able to have open discussions with characters we never may have encountered, drank with, or challenged otherwise. And no, we didn’t always get along. A family doesn’t always see eye to eye and factions form, but we had something critical in common that we put central to our sense of selves. From this a fraternity was built.

    Who I was in college was a rambunctious kid. Hell, who I was last month was a rambunctious kid. The entire way, it has always been my family who was there for me. Family not by blood, but by core values. The family built upon trust and open discussion; challenging each other with ideologies in order to reach our potential. The family of rotating membership as careers and passions grow into amorphous paths taking us around the world.

    Marco and I speak to each other at birthdays and at funerals. Maybe someday our lives will converge and an ‘A-ha’ moment will be had. Maybe someday we will look at each other and realized we were truly family. Life hasn’t worked out that way for us yet. For now, we rely on the families we’ve piecemealed together.


  • posted about Bear With Me Here... on Facebook 2016-12-15 16:28:35 -0500
    Bear With Me Here...

    Bear With Me Here...

    I’ve never written a blog post before. Films and television portrayed diaries as a normal part of a youth’s development, an outlet to help process the events happening in the most tumultuous changes in one’s pubescent life. Those actors could look back on their feelings or previous actions and grin nostalgically at their immaturity years later. That was something I couldn’t do. And, as an adult, I still have difficulty expressing myself in writing. Twenty-six characters with limitless potential to express my understanding of what the human condition is. Or am I supposed to write a fluff piece on something of little substance? How does one approach writing, and what’s the point? If it’s to share opinions, then diaries were pointless. Writing is an expression of ourselves and by taking up poetry years ago, I’ve tried to therapeutically process who I am in certain external contexts. The problem I find lies in that the deeper I dig, the more contradictions I find. My transcribed musings reflect that.

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